There is a lot of talk about being open and saying “yes!” Yes can feel great, and it seems to make others happy. It can make you feel like you are a part of something, and that feels good.
It can also put too much on your plate.
It can clutter up the space that you need to find clarity.
The question is, is the yes coming from openness, or from a hunger to matter and feel connected (at the expense of you)? Does it bring you closer to the next most radiant you, or is it distracting you from what you really need to look at (namely you)?
Are you feeling depleted? Not sure how you will make it all happen?
It can feel very much like you are doing the right thing by saying yes, but remember, if you don’t have it, you don’t have it to give. It is not honorable to donate $20 towards charity if you then cannot pay your $20 gas bill. Pay your gas bill. Once you’ve taken care of yourself, give the rest away if you’d like. But take care of yourself first. Love yourself first. Make yourself strong first. Put that oxygen mask on yourself first before putting it on anyone else.
“No” can be very empowering. It can clear the way, making space for the real yeses to come. “No” can contribute towards being able to effectively live in your Truth, define your values and create healthy boundaries. It can create a clearer picture of who you are. When you learn to say NO, the yeses begin to mean something.
There are those who say “no” to so much out of fear. We’re not talking about that. We are talking about saying “no” when “yeses” are easier and less confrontational; when “no” becomes food for the soul. Check in with yourself. You will know when that is.