Delving Deeper with Allies: Contact Lenses for your Blindspots

by Savitree Kaur

We all have blind spots. No matter how much work we’ve done, they exist. Happily ever after happens with commitment and follow through, and by letting your ego to crack open again and again. That cracking is not fun, and in fact it often comes with some unwelcome physical symptoms.

In order to push past the part where you normally get stuck and where the self-sabotage begins… or in case you don’t recognize it as such… where the cycle begins because a behavior or situation outside of you is totally unacceptable so you find yourself responding in a way that is totally justified but also looks familiar…

you will need to break that pattern and respond in a totally different way. That’s transformation.
In contrast, as they say, insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result.
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We are blind to our blind spots, and we will defend our position no matter how many times we find ourselves there. Trying to shift out of our recurring issues on our own doesn’t often work because our thinking got us there. That’s why having mentors and coaches is invaluable. Unlike friends, they aren’t afraid of your rejection. They have one job, and that is to place the mirror in the right place so that you can see that blind spot. They are there, not to do the work for you, but to give you the opportunity to do the work yourself by bringing light to it and then by holding vision for you to get there. They assume you are capable and will hold you to that standard.

Even better is when you get to share with others what you’ve learned through your own transformation. Not just the solution, but more importantly the process. Paying it forward is the best part. Because working through your blind spot with a mentor and getting unstuck from a recurring cycle is just the beginning. You get to take that experience and help others through your unique angle, and in so doing, you will find that you continue to help yourself even more than you help the other person. Likewise, your mentor is helped more than you. It’s a beautiful thing.