4 steps to becoming whole

Simple and sophisticated at the same time, here they are.  (Please feel free to ask questions). 

1. End the shaming, blaming and justifying…  …unless you like drama, or are attached to being right over happy. Otherwise, it’s wasted energy that breaks you and others down. Own it, even dwell for a moment in the hurt, the sadness, the anger or the frustration. Be kind to yourself, find your take-away in that lesson and decide what to do next. Better to move along than to sit in hell.

2. Breathe. It soothes the nervous system, increases stamina, moves stress along, and slows down your crazy head. Long deep nostril breathing puts us in power, which we need to make choices that will heal and move us forward. 

3. Stay Hydrated. Drink tons of water (without ice). When we are not well hydrated, our muscles become sore and our mood and energy becomes low. Remember, both water and caffeine can increase energy. But one

hydrates and nourishes and the other dehydrates and takes from our bodies (like calcium), depleting us in the long run. The boost that comes from adding sustainable energy will offer us more consistency in our actions, affecting our external world in a way that will feed our spirit.

4. Know your spiritual hungers and get them met. Spiritual hungers are hungers that we all have as human beings, regardless of race, gender, creed, economic or social status. Examples of spiritual hungers are hunger to be loved, touched, understood and heard. It is not hunger to be understood by_____. Simply hunger to be understood. Tune your mind to the difference.    ​  We might not be able to make a specific person understand us, but we can find someone (and most likely many someones) to understand, including ourselves. Which can lead to an interesting question: we want others to understand us, but do we understand us?      Identify what you hunger for and get them met. It could be as simple as asking a friend for a hug when you hunger to be touched. The more open you are about this, the less burden you put on specific others to have them met. The less burden you put on specific others, the less resistance specific others have around giving it to you.