by Savitree Kaur
Life is pretty irritating. The significant other is irritating. The children are irritating. Work is irritating. The cars and cyclers on the road are irritating. Deciding to find time to make dinner (which goes with deciding on what to make) otherwise deciding to spend money to eat out: irritating. How the body feels is irritating. The state of the world: forget about it.
There’s only so much (dark) chocolate one can eat to soothe an irritation.
So, how do you deal with life’s irritations? Is what you do for it a momentary fix, or does it build on you to find a different way to be?
Can these irritations reflect back to you what you need to see in order to grow into a better version of yourself while at the same time examine and love what you are today?
That which irritates you offers you good information on where or how you may not be taking care of yourself. They offer up a worthy challenge to practice proper self-care and self-advocacy, which sets the healthy boundaries necessary to create enough space for what you need to do for yourself and to encourage a more loving and respectful back-and-forth between you and everyone else.
Dig deep. Irritations are a two way street. People and things irritate, and in so doing, they hold up a mirror to take a closer look, giving you a gift opportunity to find what you’ve been holding back from yourself.
by Jodh Kaur
You are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with.
Consider those around you. Are you feeling inspired, stretched, elevated, uncomfortable or even in awe of what they are doing? When we ally ourselves with those who are living their purpose and accomplishing what they set out to do, we have the permission and motivation to do the same. Who we surround ourselves with matters. It impacts how we spend our time, what we think & talk about and where & how we take action. In fact, witnessing an ally’s action can prompt our own. It motivates us to keep up, to put one foot in front of the other (no matter how scared we are), to live our truth.
In the words of Marianne Williamson:
And as we let our own light shine,
We unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.
As we're liberated from our own fear,
Our presence automatically liberates others.
Elevate yourself. Delve Deeper. Teacher Training. Privates. Sadhana.
Treat the next person you talk to as someone whose trust and respect you wish to earn. This means you won’t take them for granted, nor make any assumptions based on “they should know…”
That person wants to be treated like a human being, and all human beings want to be seen, heard and understood. What if you could gift them this experience?
Here’s an exercise:
Go in to your next interaction without any agenda but to be fully there. Take an exhale, surrender into that moment, look at that person with genuine happiness to be there with them, smile, and say, how are you, or ask any real question, and truly want to know.
There are no thoughts running through your mind on how you will respond or what you wish to say. Just listen intently because you care. This is your opportunity to really see the other person. As well as yourself.
Make eye contact. Let the breath respond while they talk.
If you feel so compelled to interrupt, offer a solution, or talk about yourself, even if it’s something related to what they were saying… first ask yourself, what is your need? What are you hungry for? Can you hold back for now to be the fulfiller? Can you stop your thoughts in your tracks about what you will say when they’re done? Can you trust that you will have something worthwhile you say later if you do that? Or will this be about you? You decide. Compare and contrast how it feels to interact this way versus another.
Holding space for someone like this, even upon saying hello, is a good skill to cultivate. Try it with a client, a friend, your significant other, co-worker, family member, anyone. You may find that you get a lot more back in return, and you will learn a lot more about them (as well as yourself), in the process.
Kundalini Yoga Quotes:
“I’d never felt anything like it; it was just an opening of energy and a feeling of such liberation.” -Marika Bethel, owner, Glowing House